How do I not stare a girls next door pool party?
Ted M P asked:
my next door neighbor has 2 teenage girls (17 & 15 ) — I have known them for close to 10 years– we are very friendly with their parents– in fact the girls babysit for us quite often– problem is they have an inground pool that is completely in view of our upstairs deck– every day there are about 7 girls swimming there– I feel like they will think I staring at them if I am sitting out on the deck– I’m not too worried about the girls who live there, its more about their friends– plus they always wave and smile– do you think they like they attention or they probably just dont care that we can see everything they do? they can get pretty wild , and even though I have not seen it, my wife has said some tops have come off on occasion.
yeah– maybe I should have all the chairs facing the wall and keep my eyes towards the floor at all times– maybe I worded it wrong– any man would have to be gay not to look, besides some of the friends are over 18 — my question should have been “do they want us to watch them– seems like when we are out, they get louder and wilder..”
your right Shelbs, I’ll move all of our patio furniture, grill, and other items out into the backyard — I’ll enjoy my own deck in the winter months and build snow men on it
Criselda
my next door neighbor has 2 teenage girls (17 & 15 ) — I have known them for close to 10 years– we are very friendly with their parents– in fact the girls babysit for us quite often– problem is they have an inground pool that is completely in view of our upstairs deck– every day there are about 7 girls swimming there– I feel like they will think I staring at them if I am sitting out on the deck– I’m not too worried about the girls who live there, its more about their friends– plus they always wave and smile– do you think they like they attention or they probably just dont care that we can see everything they do? they can get pretty wild , and even though I have not seen it, my wife has said some tops have come off on occasion.
yeah– maybe I should have all the chairs facing the wall and keep my eyes towards the floor at all times– maybe I worded it wrong– any man would have to be gay not to look, besides some of the friends are over 18 — my question should have been “do they want us to watch them– seems like when we are out, they get louder and wilder..”
your right Shelbs, I’ll move all of our patio furniture, grill, and other items out into the backyard — I’ll enjoy my own deck in the winter months and build snow men on it
Criselda
December 30th, 2009 at 7:30 am
Carlos
Don’t stare. It’s that simple. You are a grown man and they are barely teenagers. Jesus…that’s just creepy.
When you go out on your deck just look elsewhere.
January 2nd, 2010 at 3:18 pm
Lewis
well just dont loook in their direction if you have to be out while they are. and try to be our more when they arent. umm no most girls dont like that, it has happened to me before and it makes me really uncomftorable. so i would stop. whats wrong with sitting downstairs or in your own backyard. there are really simple solutions.
January 5th, 2010 at 4:28 pm
Betty
Don’t stare. That’s easy
January 7th, 2010 at 11:48 am
Carmine
It’s your deck. Do what you like. If they have an issue with you seeing anything, they can change their activities. Just so you’re not purposely going out to watch or encouraging inappropriate behavior. That would probably be wrong…
January 10th, 2010 at 6:29 pm
Drusilla
Are you out there by yourself or is your wife and/or children out there too? I would be careful in day and age because you know the neighbors but you do not know the other girls who are over there. I am shocked at how young some of the girls are and how provocative that they dress.
You are the adult and you are the one that would be held accountable. Why even open up that can of worms. If they are getting roudy and wanting an older man to look at them…do not give them the satisfaction. Go into the house and get a refill on your lemonade or walk down to the yard and enjoy the grass……hell do something, anything man.
Are the girls worth having problems for you, your wife or even your children???? NO